Being Furloughed From My Job Lead Me To A Happier Life

2020 has been a real bitch, hasn’t it? Just when I had everything figured out, life was like “nahhh.” I was headed down a nice scenic road, nothing in my way. And then bam! I swerve right into a metaphorical oak tree of life.

Those first few weeks were a complete blur of me spiraling over the fact my life was flipped upside down. But I also realized I’m not alone in this. A lot of people’s lives changed & are still changing this year. You can take the pessimistic route & hate the world, or you can see it as a new beginning.

I decided to take the glass half full route. And miraculously, months into this twilight zone, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

Just As I Was Getting My Shit Together Too!

What a blow it was getting that email. Even though it was happening to a lot of people, I still felt alone. I remember sitting in our living room at 3am in the pitch black, wine glass in hand just starring forward. I was dumbfounded over my circumstances. And even though I reluctantly moved out of my parents house & was moving forward in my life, I was scared shitless.

My life was in shambles & a complete mess but I was going blindly into the fire & thinking “I’ll figure this out, it’s fine.”

The Path I Was On Wasn’t Really For Me.

To tell you the truth, my path before the furlough was nothing special to me. I really didn’t think I lost anything. I had chosen a path that was easy. And I didn’t mind it. But I knew it wasn’t truly meant for me. It was something other people thought I was good at. And I was, but I never was really thrilled about it. It was comfortable. But I’ve come to realize comfort isn’t always the right decision. Especially when you feel like you are so much more than what you’ve chosen.

I’ve always been looking for a way out of it. But it was money & I didn’t hate it. So I stuck with it. And I’ve always been the type of person who didn’t really know what she wanted in this life. And a lot of it boiled down to fear. I think I did know what I wanted, but it always seemed untouchable or too much of a fantasy than a realistic idea.

I Was Afraid of Going Beyond My Comfort Zone

I’ve always had lots to say. But I’ve been the creative type who keeps their thoughts to themselves, writes them down in a journal & walks away. And after awhile, writing in private journals for only my eyes wasn’t enough for me. I wanted to have the guts to share these thoughts & ideas to the world. I no longer wanted to stay in this safe & comfortable bubble forever. And it took a pandemic to finally do that.

Sometimes It Takes A Forced Change.

It took life throwing a curveball & forcing me to change to really reflect on myself, & see what really makes me happy. It took a pandemic for me to move out, start writing & live for myself. Otherwise, I wouldn’t of had the guts to find another career path. I’d be 40 years old probably still at the same job (not that there is anything wrong with that) but wanting so much more for myself.

Instead of listening to other people like I’ve been doing my entire life, I asked myself what I really wanted. And that’s when I decided to write. I decided this was my time to fully go in at my passion. For once I had no other distractions. For once I was doing something for me without giving a damn what other people think of me.

The funny thing about quarantine & being at home a lot was, it helped me become this person who truly & I mean TRULY doesn’t give a shit about what other people think of me. Before, all that caring just lead me to be overly critical, unhappy & stuck in a direction that made no sense to me.

It’s amazing how just by making that one change completely transformed me into a different person. Rather the person I was supposed to be the entire time. I felt lost before. I felt like I was living someone else’s life. Now, I feel like myself.

Other People Aren’t Writing Your Story

As the cheesy tik tok goes “You have to treat yourself as the main character in your story”. Every person’s path is going to be different than your own & that’s ok. Instead of comparing yourself to other people & not feeling good enough as you are, OWN your life. Find the beauty in your own life & stop watching the channels of other people. The fact I listened too hard to other people lead me to where I was which was stuck. I felt unoriginal & unimportant compared to people’s highlight reels. I now take it a day at a time & make each day of MY life the best it can be.

I’ve Had Time To Truly Reflect.

I’ve discovered a lot about myself during quarantine. I’ve accepted the fact I’m more of the creative type. I thrive on thoughts & imagination. I enjoy the simple things. I love experiences & sharing them with you all. I’ve gained a sense of confidence in myself I never had before. Instead of comparing my life to everyone else’s I’m just trying to make my little bubble as much of a paradise as I can.

Life will always have ups & downs. But you have the control over your mindset & how you react to those moments. And no, I’m not saying I’m completely fine with my circumstances. I still have BIG plans for myself. I’ve even considered social media marketing as a career path now. But I’m not going to sit here during these unpresidential times & watch my life go by & feel sorry for myself.

Life doesn’t stop for anything. You have to keep moving forward. And learn to love every single messy part of it.

Hallotober Blog Tag

Thank you WeirdnLiberated for nominating me to participate in the Hallotober Blog Tag. It’s a great post to break up the usual content & get you all excited for Halloween (which I love). So, hope you enjoy this fun & festive blog post.

These are the rules:

  • Thank the person who tagged you and link to their post 
  • Put the rules at the beginning or after the introduction
  • Answer the 13 questions 
  • Tag 13 people to do the tag 
  • Delete Question 13, add a new number one question of your own
  • You are free to use the tag image somewhere in the post

What’s your favourite thing about October?

The entire season of October is my aesthetic. I love the atmosphere surrounding the holiday & time of year. I love the multicolored leaves, pumpkins, the nice breeze, the fashion – – EVERYTHING. I seriously thrive during spooky season.

Are you a big celebrator of Halloween?

Yes! Throughout my childhood we would have Halloween themed parties & get togethers. My brother & I loved dressing up & trick or treating in our neighborhood. One year we went with a huge group of friends & went to 3 different neighborhoods in one night.

What’s your favourite horror movie?

I honestly am not the biggest fan of scary movies. I did recently watch It which wasn’t too bad. But I prefer classics such as Hocus Pocus, Casper, Ghostbusters & The Great Pumpkin Peanuts Special.

Would you rather a cosy night in watching horrors or a big night out in a costume?

I LOVE dressing up & going out for Halloween but this year we may need to just settle in & watch tons of Halloween movies instead.

Kevin & Russell From Up

Which has been your most favourite costume to date? 

That is a tough one since my boyfriend & I have rocked at creating unique couple costumes. But as a child, my favorite was Megera from Hercules or Sporty Spice. Here are some of our iconic couple costumes though.

Bobbing for apples or pin the hat on the witch? 

Bobbing for apples in a caudron (but that activity will probably be a thing of the past due to covid.)

How do you celebrate Halloween? 

Some years my mom, brother & I would go to this historic town near us & get lunch & watch all the people trick or treat by all the stores. Other years we would just give out candy. As I got older my friends and I would go out on the town, dress up & go to bar crawls. This year will be pretty low key. I don’t even think we are giving out candy to trick or treaters. Lights out.

What’s your least favourite horror? 

The Exorcist or The Ring. I was always afraid of those movies (FUN FACT: the girl who plays Samara in the Ring also played Lilo in Lilo & Stitch).

Do you have a favourite trick or treating memory? 

Probably going trick or treating in 3 different neighborhoods in one night. The houses with the longest driveways would always give out the large chocolate bars!

What’s your favourite thing about Halloween?

The candy! The costumes! The haunted stories…all of it!

Scary costume or Silly costume? 

Silly probably, but I love making scary costumes more glam!


What’s your favourite Halloween candy?

Reeses Peanut Butter Cups

Horror movie recommendation those who want to avoid jump scares (I.e. me)?

It Chapter 1 was really good

My Questions

  1. What’s your favourite childhood Halloween memory?
  2. What’s your favourite thing about October?
  3. Are you a big celebrator of Halloween?
  4. What’s your favourite horror movie?
  5. Would you rather a cosy night in watching horrors or a big night out in a costume?
  6. Which has been your most favourite costume to date?
  7. Bobbing for apples or pin the hat on the witch?
  8. How do you celebrate Halloween?
  9. What’s your favorite Halloween candy?
  10. Do you have a favourite trick or treating memory?
  11. What’s your favourite thing about Halloween?
  12. Scary costume or Silly costume?
  13. What are your plans for Halloween this year?

The nominees will be nominated on IG

How Minimalism Changed Everything

It used to take a lot to make me happy. And what I mean by this is, I was drawn to over stimulation & activity. The bigger the event the better. And each activity in the future had to top the next. It was a vicious cycle of high expectations & the unappreciation of the mundane.

Back in March, when the whole world shutdown did I realize I still had this mentality. The thought of not going to restaurants & cooking from home was a nightmare to me. I found happiness in trying out different restaurants or having the quick satisfaction of fast food. And to me, it was a social gathering in my eyes. It’s a way to visit people. I’ve always prefered meeting people out than having home cooked meals at home. It seemed less boring.

But during quarantine, I had to suck it up & learn to enjoy home cooked meals. And it’s not that I never enjoyed cooking, it just seemed less exciting. Plus, sometimes I can be lazy. It’s funny when you are forced in a situation like quarantine, you learn to live with the circumstance or even like it. It’s like we are so afraid of change because we obviously don’t know what the latter would look like. Now, I look forward to our next meal at home & grocery shopping. Sometimes I even prefer it. Except when I’m craving Chick fil A. I will always be hungry for nuggets.

The same mentality went for social gatherings too. I’d much rather meet people out somewhere then sit in a house & drink. But during quarantine I missed all forms of social interaction. I’d take anything. Even a quick conversation with a stranger at the grocery store was enough for me. So, now I appreciate the simpler get togethers even more. I realized in a quieter setting, you have better conversation & in turn build closer friendships.

I realized simple was better.

Don’t get me wrong I still love the idea of big travels or going to fancy restaurants. But I appreciate those times more because I do it less. By not expecting those types of moments constantly, those memories become more special & less neutral.

I’ve become more fulfilled by both big events & the routines of life. My mom used to tell me, “your daily meals aren’t supposed to be parties in your mouth all the time”. And she’s right. It’s there to feed us & keep us nourished.

By focusing on the simple & being happy with boring, I am able to see life in a new light. I don’t want for much because I no longer have the urge to one up myself. I focus on goals that will help me BE a better person, instead of LOOKING LIKE a better person. Materialism won’t fix your personality.

And when I discovered this notion, I was done. I focus on building relationships & friendships. I ask how people are doing instead of telling them about myself. I take care of my body & try to be the healthiest person I can be. I work my ass off & thrive without having to brag about it. I no longer hide my emotions through things.

I am fulfilled.

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