A sequential glide of a pen. The musical sound of fingers tapping one key after the other. Thoughts racing as the words spill out on the page. To me, this is paradise.
I have a book recommendation for you all. The Path Made Clear by Oprah Winfrey. I stumbled upon this book a few years ago & it changed my perspective on life. We humans feel almost guilty when feeling lost or not knowing which path is the correct one to take. You’ll get recommendations from all sides & although advice can be helpful, I find the best way to really find your way is to soul search & dive deep into what makes you, you.
Take ownership of your strengths, your short comings, what you’ve loved in the past & what you love now. Truly ask yourself, “What Makes Me Happy?”
You know what makes me happy?
Looking back, my whole life I’ve loved the craft. I would keep journals of my thoughts, hopes & dreams for so many years.
I wrote short stories at 7 years old. I made children’s books out of construction paper & sold them to my neighbors. My one neighbor still has one of my “books” to this day.
As a little girl, I wanted to be like Harriet from Harriet the Spy & write down everything. As I got older, I dreamed of becoming a journalist & tv reporter. I was nosy, loved drama & always wanted to find out the scoop on everything. Every chance I took whether it was for fun or my high school newspaper, I was always writing. But unfortunately, like many of us do, I listened too hard to other people.
They would tell me newspapers were a dying bread & you can’t make lots of money doing that. Or they would tell me journalists were too saturated & I wouldn’t be unique enough. I became hard on myself, not thinking I would be good enough. So I changed my path.
And the path I chose isn’t terrible. I’m still proud of my accomplishments. It’s just funny how writing always seems to come back to my life in some form. My Nana used to call me the future Barbara Walters. 😊
Since I listened to others more than myself, I spent my college years learning about the human mind & personalities. Although I found it interesting, I always felt like something was off. One semester I decided to take one writing course, & ended up being referred to the college newspaper the following semester.
And guess what? I loved it!
Clearly, I’ve been oblivious to my calling. I brush it off as something I can do well, I guess? But always went with plans b, c & d.
It wasn’t until I read this passage in Oprah’s book that everything just clicked. It was in that moment I was like “yes, this is me.”
When it comes to your life, you have to find what makes you light up. Sure, I’m not saying you won’t find a career that pays bills well. Or maybe you like doing something as merely a hobby. I believe people can have multiple paths.
It’s so very important to not lose your passions. Passions are what make us stand out from the crowd. And although people might not see the vision, as long as you do, that’s all that should matter.
Take yourself back to when you were really young & people would ask you, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” Before society tainted your outlook on the world, what was it?
Yes I dreamed of being a journalist. But I also wanted to be an artist, a teacher for a while & an actress.
Clearly, I have a very creative soul. And I try to engage those traits through other ways. No, I may not have an abundance of acrylic paint & paint brushes, but I do have makeup brushes & I find my makeup routine to be an art in itself. I also love decorating the house & design in general.
These are the attributes that make me who I am. And I wouldn’t give that up for anything. As long as you enrich yourself in activities that feed the soul, happiness can be just around the corner.
My path led me to writing once again this year through blogging. The combination of sheer boredom [especially during stay at home order] & having the time, I decided why not write? I remember laying awake at night & wondering what I would do to fill my time. And the idea came to me like a freight train. I’ve considered it in the past but my insecurities always seemed to bite me in the ass. “What would people think?” “I’ll be made fun of.”
I’m back with another tag blog post for Blogtober & we are getting closer & closer to Halloween. I was browsing the WordPress reader & came across a blogger by the name of Literary Weaponry who shared the Spooky Halloween Tag with her readers. I looked through the questions & had to answer them myself. I tag whoever comes across this post.
Favorite horror or Halloween song?
I Put A Spell On You – from the movie Hocus Pocus for sure. The scene in the movie when Winifred Sanderson sings this song to place a trance on the guests at a Halloween party is such a classic.
2. Name something you wouldn’t want to run into in a dark forest or in an abandoned building.
Have you heard of the story of the black eyed children? I’d run my little ass off if I saw one of them in a dark forest. I don’t know why horror movies make children so scary.
3. Have you ever played with a Ouija Board?
Do you think I’m stupid? Hell no! Whether it’s fake or not, I’ve heard plenty of stories of things going wrong so no thank you!
4. Favourite horror monster or villain?
I love the idea of vampires. I don’t know where this came from but I love shows like Twilight, Vampire Diaries & True Blood so you see a pattern. I’m trying to think, do we consider the Salvatore brothers villains in a sense because I wouldn’t be mad if Damon knocked on my door.
5. The creepiest thing that’s ever happened while you were alone?
I plan to share a few ghost stories of my own in an upcoming post so look out for that! I’m someone who is not naive to the fact there aren’t some forms of ghosts or paranormal out there. I wouldn’t consider my experiences creepy because some are “visitations” or signs from loved ones in my opinion. But I’ve for sure had moments when I was alone in the house hearing the creeks & sounds from outside & getting chills.
6. If you were dared to spend the night in a “haunted house”, would you do it?
On one hand, I find those types of videos so interesting. If I did, I’d bring a few people along with me. When someone calls a home haunted, does it mean it simply has old history or are their poltergeists taking up rent?
7. Are you superstitious?
Not really. We had a black cat walk into our front yard before & I just thought it was cute & wanted to bring it inside.
8. Do you ever see figures in your peripheral vision?
I do think my eyes play tricks on me if that’s what you mean. I’d rather not wonder if a shadow by the corner of my room was anything other than my bathrobe. Ha!
9. Which urban legend scares you the most?
None of them really scare me except those black eyed children. I just think people have great imaginations.
10. Do you prefer gore or thrillers?
I’m one of the only people in my family who didn’t go into the medical field. Does that answer your question? haha!
11. Do you believe in multiple dimensions or worlds?
Sure! There’s so much we have yet to discover!
12. Ever made a potion of any sort?
Nah, I’m no witch.
13. Do you get scared easily?
I guess so. I just really hate jump scares, roller coasters, the feeling of falling …..but even though it’s scary, I enjoy watching certain thriller movies this time of year.
14. Have you ever played Bloody Mary?
Yes, at sleepovers as a kid. Nothing really happened though.
15. Do you believe in demons/the devil?
I’m sure there is.
16. You’re home alone but you hear footsteps in your house, what do you do?
Call the police. But also they shouldn’t mess with me. I may be small but I am mighty.
17. If you got trapped in one scary movie, which would you choose?
If I had to choose, I’d go with The Ring because I’ve seen Scary Movie 3 & I’d just place the TV on a ledge & have her fall. Also, I’m not as afraid of this movie ever since I learned the actress played the girl from the movie Stitch.
18. If you could only wear one halloween costume for the rest of your life, what would you be?
The dinosaur costume for sure!
19. Would you ever go to a graveyard at night?
I don’t find them scary. I find graveyards to be more unnecessary now a days…
20. In a zombie apocalypse what is your weapon of choice?
21. Would you rather go to a Halloween party or go trick or treating?
Why not both? Go trick or treating for a few hours & then go dancing into the night.
22. You’re in a horror movie. Are you the final girl, the first to die, the comic relief, the skeptic, the smart one, or the killer?
What do you think I’d be?
23. Do you have to watch something happy after watching a horror movie so you can go to sleep?
Yes, I’ve been known to put on an episode of Spongebob or Friends to go to sleep.
24. Whilst watching scary movies, are you the person who yells at the characters, the person with their eyes covered the whole time, or the person who falls asleep?
Eyes covered saying, “this is such a good movie”
25. Are you the one who gets scared, or the one who does the scaring?
I don’t think scaring people is funny. You could give someone a heart attack.
26. Favorite scary book?
Check out my book recommendations here.
27. How old were you when you saw your first horror movie?
My earliest memory would be watching The Ring at a sleepover when I was 11.
28. What was your first Halloween costume?
I was only a few months old & I was a pumpkin
29. What are you going to be for Halloween this year?
I’m not sure. We usually do some form of couple costume if we go out. Last year, we obviously couldn’t do anything. But if we manage to go visit our friends out of state, we may dress up then. TBD….
30. If you could have a spooky halloween pet (black cat, owl, bat, rat, wolf), what would you pick?
I already have an orange tabby & that’s pretty Halloween to me….
I‘m back with another Q&A post today. I just love having these casual chats with you all & answering your most dire questions. I asked on Twitter & Instagram to send me any questions you have about me so the range is pretty scattered. I’ll be chatting about blogging, random favorites, self care, mental health, wedding planning & so much more. So, grab a snack or some type of beverage & let’s get into answering these questions.
What are your tips for a peaceful mind [ to achieve goals etc…] ?
Maintaining a peaceful mind is always the goal & something I work on for myself. I tend to overthink a lot & my mind is always racing. To keep the peace as best I can, I focus on self care. I take downdays & rest as much as possible. From my experience, I’ve found keeping a balance of work & rest fuels success. Otherwise, you are more likely to reach burn out when you are trying to reach said goals. A small tip I have for you is to create a to-do list. Circle the things you have to get done that specific day & cross them out as you complete them. This keeps my mind organized & the act of crossing out each task makes me feel like I’m accomplishing something. But I also teach myself to treat the to-do list as “suggestions”. Although I am told I need to finish xyz by a certain time, I don’t beat myself up if they are not done on time. Obviously, this depends on each situation because there are some deadlines we MUST meet. But as a blogger who works for herself, most of my deadlines are fueled by me. So, I try to be more gentle with myself when it comes to productivity & achieving goals. As they say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
how do you find your blog inspiration?
I find my blog inspiration from living. I go through my days, read books, watch or listen to types of media & absorb the information. I reflect on these mediums & think on my perspectives & takes on them. I think about my own experiences & how I can write them in a way to teach others what I’ve learned. Like I said, my mind is always racing. As a writer, I find my overthinking mind a blessing at times because I always have something to say or write about. Times where I feel in a creative rut, I tend to prioritize self care more. I put time into reading or experiencing new things. A lot of times when I have writer’s block, it’s when my life feels the most dull. It’s when I haven’t experienced enough of life for a while. So, to fix that, I tend to just go out & do something.
do you believe in ghosts or the paranormal?
For sure! Not only do I think the concept of ghosts & the paranormal is just fascinating, I also believe the experiences people have pertaining to these entities are real at times. Do I think there are fakers in this world? Of course. Do I think the entertainment business exaggerates these phenomenons? I most certainly do! I personally find the history of old places & families quite interesting. And chances are most “haunted” or old area has a story to tell. I have had my own fair share of seemingly “paranormal experiences” or signs from deceased loved ones that to me, make me feel at ease or comforted. Whether it’s a cardinal flying by in our backyard, a light breeze or even an entire mirror coming crashing down for no reason [ more details to that story to come ] , I most certainly believe to an extent.
how do you beat procrastination [ especially in the writing process] ?
I usually determine why I’m wanting to procrastinate. Do I have other things on my mind? What’s going on internally that is causing me to be less productive? And when it comes to writing, I actually just take a break. If I’m procrastinating it’s usually because I’m not in the mood to write. And forcing a blog post to be written is never good. Granted, there are other times where procrastination needs to be handled right away when you NEED to get something done. And in that case, I would take a few minutes to collect myself. Take a short walk outside. Return with a clearer mindset & get those tasks done.
how do you maintain consistency?
In terms of blogging, I maintain consistency through scheduling my content regularly. I also tend to write in bulk. In one sitting, I can write 2-3 blog posts (depending how long / how much research is needed) at a time. On weekends if I don’t have much going on, I can even write more. I’ve always been a fast writer. I don’t really know why that is & whether it’s a good or bad thing. Once something is written, I will sit & edit it repeatedly. But to maintain consistency on my blog, I’ll immediately schedule the posts through the WordPress scheduler. If at anytime I want to change a few things around I can, but having it set with thumbnails & keywords helps maintain this flow. Through the scheduling technique, I’ve managed to have posts lined up months in advance.
what is your favorite thing about yourself?
My sense of positivity & happy go lucky nature. Don’t get me wrong, life has thrown me plenty of curve balls that have left me feeling rock bottom at times. Life can still be a witch sometimes. But no matter the circumstance, I always get back up & power through. I don’t know if I was just born that way or if it was something I learned overtime. But I will say, even as a young girl, I was known for my contagious smile & love for life. And for the most part, I’ve been able to carry that through my adulthood.
who are your favorite bloggers in 2021?
Let me just say, I’m a fan of so many creators in the writing / blogging space. I can easily make a list of 100 + people. But if I had to choose only a few, I would pick:
I’m always so excited when I discover another minimalist blogger. Even though I’m a practicing minimalist, there is still so much to learn. I love to read about other’s takes on the lifestyle. She teaches you how to start a minimalist journey of your own, decluttering tips & ways to live a simple life.
I may be slightly bias because Olivia has become a friend outside the blogging world. But her blog is one, whether we were friends or not, would be one I would read on a regular basis. There isn’t one post I don’t like. She talks about blogging advice / tips, self growth, & other lifestyle topics that are quite relatable. If only her accent came through in her writing. LOL.
I love Mary-Ann’s blog so much. Every time her posts show up on my Twitter feed, the look of the thumbnail always draws me in & the titles make me click the link. She writes about an array of topics such as blogging advice, self care & productivity. I always leave having read a post with a better form of self worth.
what is your favorite form of self care?
I always try to make self care a priority. And choosing just one form or activity is difficult because I go for different things depending on my mood or the season. Recently, I shared my fall self care routine & a few months ago I talked about ways to make a mindful self care day. During the Halloween season, I love watching halloween themed movies or getting lost in a spooky story. In general, when I’m feeling like I need some down time, I gravitate towards one or both of these mediums. Another favorite activity is getting outside & taking in the fresh air. I don’t like feeling cooped up inside a house all day. So, at least allowing myself a short walk around the neighborhood helps with my cabin fever.
what motivates you to continue blogging?
If you didn’t know already, I’ve been blogging for 1 year & some change now. Read about my blogging anniversary & what I’ve learned here if you haven’t yet. I’m honestly surprised I’ve kept with blogging as long as I have. Quarantine gave me the fuel to start this hobby in the first place & it was merely a way to distract myself from the world & mask my boredom. There have been a few times I’ve questioned why I do this & whether I should quit altogether & move on. I’ve taken a few breaks along the way for sure but at the end of the day I love what I do. My favorite part of blogging is connecting with the rest of world & having a place to express this side of me. Writing in a private journal is fine & all, but sharing my writing style & thoughts while also getting feedback makes it worth it. Being told my blog is an inspiration or that you look forward to my posts keeps me going. Knowing I have a purpose which is entertaining my audience is enough in itself. I also try to keep the mindset of making this always feel like a hobby instead of a job even though it’s both.
what is your wedding aesthetic?
Like most people, I’ve found Pinterest to be very helpful with brainstorming mood boards & the overall aesthetic. In a lot of ways I’m letting a family friend take the rein with a lot of the details because she is a creative genius. I’m very flexible & am the type of person who just wants someone to tell me where to be & what time. LOL But I do have a few ideas including burgundy bridesmaid dresses & floral arrangements. I love the traditional look of weddings with black tie & almost a Great Gatsbyesque atmosphere. We plan to have an outdoor wedding with tents & stringed lights. And a violinist will be playing “here comes the bride” & other instrumental tunes during the actual ceremony. In some ways, I don’t want to give away too much else because I’d rather people see for themselves on the actual day. But things are coming together. for our big day next spring! Here are some photos from Pinterest that showcase the potential vibe for our special day:
I really hope you enjoyed this Q&A & reading about my thoughts & life updates. See you tomorrow.