I‘m back with another Q&A post today. I just love having these casual chats with you all & answering your most dire questions. I asked on Twitter & Instagram to send me any questions you have about me so the range is pretty scattered. I’ll be chatting about blogging, random favorites, self care, mental health, wedding planning & so much more. So, grab a snack or some type of beverage & let’s get into answering these questions.
What are your tips for a peaceful mind [ to achieve goals etc…] ?
Maintaining a peaceful mind is always the goal & something I work on for myself. I tend to overthink a lot & my mind is always racing. To keep the peace as best I can, I focus on self care. I take downdays & rest as much as possible. From my experience, I’ve found keeping a balance of work & rest fuels success. Otherwise, you are more likely to reach burn out when you are trying to reach said goals. A small tip I have for you is to create a to-do list. Circle the things you have to get done that specific day & cross them out as you complete them. This keeps my mind organized & the act of crossing out each task makes me feel like I’m accomplishing something. But I also teach myself to treat the to-do list as “suggestions”. Although I am told I need to finish xyz by a certain time, I don’t beat myself up if they are not done on time. Obviously, this depends on each situation because there are some deadlines we MUST meet. But as a blogger who works for herself, most of my deadlines are fueled by me. So, I try to be more gentle with myself when it comes to productivity & achieving goals. As they say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
how do you find your blog inspiration?
I find my blog inspiration from living. I go through my days, read books, watch or listen to types of media & absorb the information. I reflect on these mediums & think on my perspectives & takes on them. I think about my own experiences & how I can write them in a way to teach others what I’ve learned. Like I said, my mind is always racing. As a writer, I find my overthinking mind a blessing at times because I always have something to say or write about. Times where I feel in a creative rut, I tend to prioritize self care more. I put time into reading or experiencing new things. A lot of times when I have writer’s block, it’s when my life feels the most dull. It’s when I haven’t experienced enough of life for a while. So, to fix that, I tend to just go out & do something.
do you believe in ghosts or the paranormal?
For sure! Not only do I think the concept of ghosts & the paranormal is just fascinating, I also believe the experiences people have pertaining to these entities are real at times. Do I think there are fakers in this world? Of course. Do I think the entertainment business exaggerates these phenomenons? I most certainly do! I personally find the history of old places & families quite interesting. And chances are most “haunted” or old area has a story to tell. I have had my own fair share of seemingly “paranormal experiences” or signs from deceased loved ones that to me, make me feel at ease or comforted. Whether it’s a cardinal flying by in our backyard, a light breeze or even an entire mirror coming crashing down for no reason [ more details to that story to come ] , I most certainly believe to an extent.
how do you beat procrastination [ especially in the writing process] ?
I usually determine why I’m wanting to procrastinate. Do I have other things on my mind? What’s going on internally that is causing me to be less productive? And when it comes to writing, I actually just take a break. If I’m procrastinating it’s usually because I’m not in the mood to write. And forcing a blog post to be written is never good. Granted, there are other times where procrastination needs to be handled right away when you NEED to get something done. And in that case, I would take a few minutes to collect myself. Take a short walk outside. Return with a clearer mindset & get those tasks done.
how do you maintain consistency?
In terms of blogging, I maintain consistency through scheduling my content regularly. I also tend to write in bulk. In one sitting, I can write 2-3 blog posts (depending how long / how much research is needed) at a time. On weekends if I don’t have much going on, I can even write more. I’ve always been a fast writer. I don’t really know why that is & whether it’s a good or bad thing. Once something is written, I will sit & edit it repeatedly. But to maintain consistency on my blog, I’ll immediately schedule the posts through the WordPress scheduler. If at anytime I want to change a few things around I can, but having it set with thumbnails & keywords helps maintain this flow. Through the scheduling technique, I’ve managed to have posts lined up months in advance.
what is your favorite thing about yourself?
My sense of positivity & happy go lucky nature. Don’t get me wrong, life has thrown me plenty of curve balls that have left me feeling rock bottom at times. Life can still be a witch sometimes. But no matter the circumstance, I always get back up & power through. I don’t know if I was just born that way or if it was something I learned overtime. But I will say, even as a young girl, I was known for my contagious smile & love for life. And for the most part, I’ve been able to carry that through my adulthood.
who are your favorite bloggers in 2021?
Let me just say, I’m a fan of so many creators in the writing / blogging space. I can easily make a list of 100 + people. But if I had to choose only a few, I would pick:
I’m always so excited when I discover another minimalist blogger. Even though I’m a practicing minimalist, there is still so much to learn. I love to read about other’s takes on the lifestyle. She teaches you how to start a minimalist journey of your own, decluttering tips & ways to live a simple life.
I may be slightly bias because Olivia has become a friend outside the blogging world. But her blog is one, whether we were friends or not, would be one I would read on a regular basis. There isn’t one post I don’t like. She talks about blogging advice / tips, self growth, & other lifestyle topics that are quite relatable. If only her accent came through in her writing. LOL.
I love Mary-Ann’s blog so much. Every time her posts show up on my Twitter feed, the look of the thumbnail always draws me in & the titles make me click the link. She writes about an array of topics such as blogging advice, self care & productivity. I always leave having read a post with a better form of self worth.
what is your favorite form of self care?
I always try to make self care a priority. And choosing just one form or activity is difficult because I go for different things depending on my mood or the season. Recently, I shared my fall self care routine & a few months ago I talked about ways to make a mindful self care day. During the Halloween season, I love watching halloween themed movies or getting lost in a spooky story. In general, when I’m feeling like I need some down time, I gravitate towards one or both of these mediums. Another favorite activity is getting outside & taking in the fresh air. I don’t like feeling cooped up inside a house all day. So, at least allowing myself a short walk around the neighborhood helps with my cabin fever.
what motivates you to continue blogging?
If you didn’t know already, I’ve been blogging for 1 year & some change now. Read about my blogging anniversary & what I’ve learned here if you haven’t yet. I’m honestly surprised I’ve kept with blogging as long as I have. Quarantine gave me the fuel to start this hobby in the first place & it was merely a way to distract myself from the world & mask my boredom. There have been a few times I’ve questioned why I do this & whether I should quit altogether & move on. I’ve taken a few breaks along the way for sure but at the end of the day I love what I do. My favorite part of blogging is connecting with the rest of world & having a place to express this side of me. Writing in a private journal is fine & all, but sharing my writing style & thoughts while also getting feedback makes it worth it. Being told my blog is an inspiration or that you look forward to my posts keeps me going. Knowing I have a purpose which is entertaining my audience is enough in itself. I also try to keep the mindset of making this always feel like a hobby instead of a job even though it’s both.
what is your wedding aesthetic?
Like most people, I’ve found Pinterest to be very helpful with brainstorming mood boards & the overall aesthetic. In a lot of ways I’m letting a family friend take the rein with a lot of the details because she is a creative genius. I’m very flexible & am the type of person who just wants someone to tell me where to be & what time. LOL But I do have a few ideas including burgundy bridesmaid dresses & floral arrangements. I love the traditional look of weddings with black tie & almost a Great Gatsbyesque atmosphere. We plan to have an outdoor wedding with tents & stringed lights. And a violinist will be playing “here comes the bride” & other instrumental tunes during the actual ceremony. In some ways, I don’t want to give away too much else because I’d rather people see for themselves on the actual day. But things are coming together. for our big day next spring! Here are some photos from Pinterest that showcase the potential vibe for our special day:
I really hope you enjoyed this Q&A & reading about my thoughts & life updates. See you tomorrow.