It’s safe to say we’ve all had to spend a lot of time with just ourselves this past year & a half. To quote Olivia Lucie Blake in one of her recent blog posts, being a fellow introverted – extrovert, it has been a rather thriving era for myself. I’ve been reflecting, manifesting & just simply setting my priorities straight for once. I’ve been shedding what no longer serves me & will keep me moving forward to a better future – – & this includes people.
My Energy Is Precious & There’s No Room For Vampires
I’ve talked about how I have empathic tendencies. I think we all are empaths to some degree & with that, we have to set clear boundaries for our wellbeing. This sometimes means you have to let go of the soul suckers or “emotional vampires” to truly be free of the negativity. Life is too damn short to surround ourselves with people who constantly bring us down or don’t show equal appreciation. That’s wasted energy on your part & we need to understand to be meaningful on who gets to enjoy said energy.
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We Don’t Let Go To Be Spiteful But Instead To Be Better
I think friendships either come to us for a reason, a season or a lifetime. So, when it’s time for a friendship to end, I rarely have ill will towards said person. I’m always grateful for the time spent because at one point I needed or wanted that companionship. Sometimes it’s simply a gradual change. We all evolve as individuals & with that alter our beliefs & values which then, can affect the connections we have with others. It’s natural to have the occasional falling out & eventually you’ll find other people to replace those spots. For instance, during isolation, not even distance kept me away from staying connected to the ones who mattered the most. It has been a true test on who my true friends really are. I can count my true friends on one hand & I’m really proud of that.
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Be Your Own Best Friend First Above All Else
I’ve always been told to love yourself first before anyone else & be content with alone time. Like I said, I’ve been a natural at this for most of my life. But I also have moments where I want connections (the right ones) & sometimes it’s been slim pickings. I’m very content, especially after quarantine to prioritize my family & my relationship. My brother for instance is one of my best friends. So, I truly feel fulfilled with just that. I think when you become so empowered by yourself you see life in a much stronger way. Plus, the older you get the less time you have for petty bullshit. There are far greater things to focus on than drama.
The People You Think Are Keepers Are Actually Nothing Close To It
I’ve had the bad habit of holding onto connections way past the expiration date. I’m a rather sentimental person & cling to memories rather hard. And sometimes those memories need to be not necessarily forgotten, but placed on the shelf & left alone. Or they need to be properly thrown out. Sometimes what we think was a good friendship or a healthy relationship was anything but that. If at any point you feel stuck, worthless, unappreciated or just down right unhappy around said people, that’s your sign to cut them out. I hold onto what a person once was or the memories we had even if they aren’t at all this way in the present day. I’ve learned to accept the fact that some friendships change & some need to be pushed aside so new ones can take their place. This is important for any form of growth & continuation to the future. And like a bad breakup, sometimes you need to rip the bandaid & move on.
Online Connections Are True Connections, I Promise You
Blogging has given me so much to be grateful for. To have found a group of individuals from different places around the world that share a similar love for writing has been the best thing ever during such isolating times. Although you are strangers in a lot of ways & I was hesitant at first to connect too hard with my audience, I have let my walls down. And with that, I’ve made incredible connections with such talented & creative souls. Thank you for your constant support, appreciation & encouragement. I wouldn’t be where I am today without you all.
Have your friendships changed during isolation?