Why I Only Use Social Media For Blogging

Creating social media platforms for my blog felt like I was going backwards. I was finally at a place in my life where I stopped prioritizing my “digital” persona & started to be more present in “real life”. But owning a blog & NOT having an online presence was like owning a store with the closed sign always on the entrance. I wasn’t going to get anywhere without it. 

    Let’s go back to 2016 for a second. This was the height of my “Instagram addiction”. And yes, I dramatically call it an addiction because I was always looking for the next best photo op. I was living for the photos instead of living in the moment. And honestly, looking back I wish I had closed my IG account sooner because those years between 2014 to 2016 were prime years of going out with friends & not having a care in the world. But all I prioritized was my outfits, makeup & whether I would get those group shots with friends so I would have something to post the next day. Because we all know we HAVE to prove to the world we have a life. 

    Social media platforms like Facebook & Instagram are so unhealthy. All it really did was fuel my FOMO & cause me to have low self esteem. When in reality a photo speaks 1,000 words & most of those words would be different from the reality of what went on that day. But regardless of the amount of times I told myself not to compare myself to others or feel left out of an outing I would have regretted going to, I would soak all those images in & start molding myself into those cookie cutter feeds. 

    So in 2016, I deleted my Instagram, Twitter & SnapChat. No more worrying about aesthetically pleasing feeds, ambiguous tweets & embarrassing videos from drunk night outs. I did choose to keep Facebook because I didn’t want my boomer family members to think I left the face of the Earth. I kid. 

     With the platforms I did keep, I just went through & did a proper digital declutter. And in previous blog posts, such as my Minimalism Guide to Digital Declutter, I can’t stress enough how important it is. My friends list was cut in half, removing those highschool acquaintances from my home town I never see & keeping only the ones I see regularly or truly want to keep in touch with. I removed or untagged myself from any embarrassing photos or statuses. Thank you timehop for the cringey reminders. And now I try to only post when I want to change my profile picture which is looking to be twice a year. 

     But when it came to my blogging “career”, I knew I had to be on social media to create a brand for myself. And unfortunately, old habits don’t quit because I went back to my addictive self with a snap of my fingers. I really felt ashamed of myself. I was so caught up in the numbers game & posting the best images & having the most perfect feed. There was no professionalism whatsoever. You live & you learn. It took me a few months to realize I needed to make a change. 

     So recently, I decided to think of my blog as a brand & what I wanted to showcase to the world. As a minimalist I want to teach other people the benefits of stepping away from social media more often & not putting so much pressure on your digital self. And for someone who uses these platforms to gain traffic to their blog, it’s definitely become a balancing act. 

 In my personal life, I don’t miss Instagram at all. If I want to share something with someone, I will text them. I no longer post those incredibly long birthday shout outs or even relationship devotions for the world to see. I actually have learned to enjoy keeping parts of my life private & a mystery. Who do I hangout with? How’s my relationship going? What am I doing with my life? You’ll never truly know through social media. And I kind of like it that way. Plus, my friendships are a lot more genuine now that I don’t reply on social media to maintain them.

  I only have 130 Facebook friends. I primarily follow bloggers & other creators on my blog Instagram. I block the accounts that are too toxic & don’t bring me joy as Marie Kondo would say. The majority of my photos on my camera roll haven’t been seen on social media. 

I’ve really grown as an individual. Treating my blogging Instagram & Twitter as a business & still keeping my life private is healthier for me. Recently, I decided to keep my feed professional with digitally made images, stock photos & a few photos of my day to day in a more artistic flair. I actually created a spreadsheet dedicated to my IG feed so I have more of a schedule & purpose to what I post. At the same time, I try not to worry too hard at maintaining any sort of perfectionism. I still want to be authentically me & still see it as a creative outlet. Not to mention, I’ve connected with so many like minded creative souls these past 7 or 8 months. And in rather isolating times, I’m grateful to have such technology at my fingertips. The bottom line is I don’t want social media to dictate how my life outside the digital space is going. Social media is only one very small side to the story.

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116 thoughts on “Why I Only Use Social Media For Blogging

  1. This line pretty much sums it up for me: “When in reality a photo speaks 1,000 words & most of those words would be different from the reality of what went on that day”
    Beautifully, beautifully written.
    You are absolutely right in what you have said. Xx

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  2. I think this is an excellent article, especially for younger women, who are often trying to please the world with selfies and create an image of perfection in their lives that is unrealistic and unattainable. Artistic and professional is the way to go and a sign of maturity.

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  3. I have never really did anything with instagram, I spent way too much time on facebook. Though I have changed a lot in what I share there. A few photos and links to my blog mostly. I agree, if we want to show our professionalism, we must actually show that professionalism in our social media posts. Which means finding a balance and where the limitation line is drawn.

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  4. OH GOODNESS!! Thank you for this! What a struggle! I never had an instragram before I started my website and it did not take long for it to take a wrong turn. I’m still trying to find a balance but it is so nice to know that I’m not the only one who gets caught up in the toxicity.

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  5. I applaud anyone letting go of social media! I also had a bit of an addiction, and have since deleted everything and I only blog. I feel much better 🙂 It’s been a few years now.

    The thing is, social media sounds like a good idea in theory, but in practice, social media can be so toxic. It also spreads a lot of false ideas, and that’s just too bad, especially for people like me who love to discuss true crime and history. sigh.

    Thanks for sharing, great post!

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  6. I’ve been contemplating this as well… I rarely use Instagram, but Instagram is key in getting readers and followers. I just never keep up with consistent posting lol–the opposite of an addiction. I’m also not a very open person (trying to be, but old habits die hard), so the thought of exposing myself in that way AND on social media (with the potential for family or friends to “check in” on my blog) is terrifying! Anyway, this post was definitely food for thought.

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  7. This post resonates with me. In most of my teenage years (I am only 20 so I feel like I sound like I am 80 when I say that, but so be it), I was borderline addicted to Instagram. I was constantly online and obsessing about taking perfect pictures to gain followers. I still feel unworthy if I do not get a certain amount of likes on a post. There are a lot of negatives that come out of social media and I was finally cutting back my screen time until I created my blog. Now, social media feels more enticing than ever to me because I feel the need to promote myself the most I can. I respect that you only use social media in a professional way. I need to do a proper digital declutter myself. That sounds like a much healthier way to go about using social media. Excellent post!

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    1. that’s great you realized that about yourself. not a lot of young people can admit those things. i think with blogging, social media is different. i feel like i connect more with the blogging community than anyone in my real life sometimes. i guess when you meet people with the same interests, you gain this immediate support. but yes, digital declutters are a great way for balance and clarity if you are planning on staying on these platforms. 🙂

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  8. Thanks for sharing your experience with this. I can feel like I am stuck on rollercoaster of wanting to share personal life & not wanting to post anything personal. So I do believe we all have to find a healthy balance for ourselves and at different times in our lives when it suits too.
    Defo food fr thought… Helen 🙂

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  9. I like your approach. Few understand: social media is not real when it is used to try to impress people. Pure illusion. But if you use social media to show love, to uplift, to inspire and to genuinely serve people, the sky is the limit for you. The real challenge is to step out of the illusion of trying to convey a perfect persona, and to just be at peace with being yourself. From illusion to truth.

    Ryan

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  10. I love this! I totally agree that it can get really unhealthy and toxic when it comes to using social media for personal use. That’s why I deactivated my personal account too 😆 on IG most people like to show the best part of their lives, but really it’s not what it portrays behind that photo. I think using it for blogging and to inspire others is so much better 😁

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  11. Insightful read! I agree — it’s difficult when you’re a blogger and you have to limit your social media use. I’m sorry you had to go through that instagram addiction phase (it’s awful to be obsessed with how you look on social media and not paying attention to the real world) but I’m glad you’ve moved on and learned from it! Enjoyed reading this! Thanks for sharing xx

    http://www.lifebeginsattwenty.com

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  12. Wow, this is definitely one that we can all relate to. We are stuck between balancing social media use and trying to be present in our real world. Also, now there are more and more apps that lets you edit and create your photos however you want which makes makes it even harder to care less about the aesthetic. You always feel like you need to use these apps and have the best of photos.

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  13. I absolutely love everything about this post. Especially the part where you talk about how you should have been living in the moment, it is so important to take the time to live in the moment before it’s gone and you miss it because you weren’t really paying attention. I also love how you talk about being more intentional with your work! great advice!

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  14. I feel a really similar way. When I graduated, I deleted Facebook, stopped posting on IG and only kept Twitter as it was always my favourite. Then when it came time to start my blog, I made new accounts for everything. Posting is sporadic on some platforms, and I think I’m mildly addicted to Twitter sometimes😂 but I’m glad there’s a clear line in my head as to what that account is for x

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  15. This makes so much sense! I tried to do all the social media but found it way too stressful. Doing a “digital declutter” is such a great idea! I’m taking your advice and doing that this week. Great post!

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  16. I feel like this was pretty personal, so thank you for sharing it. I don’t have an urge to post that much, but I tend to lose track of time scrolling through Instagram. I don’t use FB and only have a page for my blog, where I post everytime I publish a new post. But most of my social media is for blogging, but sometimes my feed gets pretty toxic. Quarantine is already bad enough, so this was twisting the knife. I love the comparison you made when you wrote “But owning a blog & NOT having an online presence was like owning a store with the closed sign always on the entrance.”

    That just made so much sense, and it felt pretty relatable. I’m glad to see after reading this post, that I’m not the only one.

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  17. Great post! I loved understanding what you went through and your thoughts. I actually really love social media and I dont really feel the pressures from it. I just do what I want when I want Lol I’m also not reliant on it either. When I travel or attend events, I rarely post or I’ll post a photo a week later because I like being in the moment! Thanks for sharing xx

    http://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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  18. I absolutely love this post and it so hit me hard. I’ve been off social for a few years but recently started again as my blog has been growing too. I agree though, we’ve got to be careful with the boundaries we set for ourselves and our brands.

    Clarrisa -www.later-means-never.com

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  19. Excellent post! I agree with you about social posts not being an accurate depiction of the person’s life. I mostly use social media to promote my blog posts nowadays, but I’ll look at other people’s posts and to see what my favorite bands are up to (just not constantly). I’m glad you’ve developed a healthy relationship with social media now and thank you for sharing your story with us!

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  20. Thank you for sharing this lovely post! I feel the same 2 years ago when I quit posting anything on my insta because it’s so addicting. Then when starting my blog, I learn how to balance my life and my blog. I don’t feel pressure anymore now, I just do what works for me + what I love doing 😀

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  21. It truly is so true how we can become addicted to social media. Since I too started my blogs social media accounts I would find myself constantly looking at my phone. I am slowly realizing it’s to much and having views or more followers won’t validate me. Less truly is more.

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  22. Lovely read. I agree with you. Never went through a social media addiction but I primarily use social media for my online business and nothing else. It is simply too much to share every aspect of my life. Now, I follow fellow bloggers and small business owners. It makes me feel amazing. ~ Phung (https://beactiveiseasy.com/)

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  23. This was a really interesting post. Funny enough, I had social media (Instagram and facebook) before I created my blog but I rarely used them. Matter of fact, I used them like once in a month and sometimes less. During the quarantine, I started to use social media more (Instagram to be precise) and boy, even though I have always been super satisfied with myself, using instagram made me start to feel like some people are actually better off. Social media has a really negative impact especially when it comes to COMPARISON. Although I use social media for blogging now, I don’t let anything I see on there affect me or make me feel like I’m less of what I am. The human life is full of imperfections whereas social media paints it differently. I am imperfect, I love my imperfections and nobody is perfect either.

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  24. That was such a great post! I agree with you completely. I have never actually been active on any of the social media sites. I recently opened an account on Instagram (which I haven’t linked yet) and now I’m thinking about Twitter. But I don’t know if I will be able to maintain them as much. I do have a fear of getting addicted to them.

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  25. Its great that you’ve been able to get to this place. I try to switch off from social media when I’m not working on my blog. It definitely helps with my mood and I’m so much more productive too.

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  26. Nowadays, I just use my social media for my blog. I still have my personal accounts but I’m barely on them lol. Even though might spend some time on Twitter for my blog, I don’t spend outrageous periods of time scrolling on my phone anymore since being a blogger. Great post!

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  27. Great post regarding social media. When using the social media platform for blogging and other businesses, etc, you should always use wisdom and separate how much personal information you share. Too many believe this is equating to a perfect life, etc. and can become discouraged if their life does not appear the same. Your honesty is important and necessary. Thank you again for sharing. 😊

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  28. Great read and I couldn’t agree with you more. Social media platforms can be addictive and toxic very quickly if we are not careful in how we manage our time with it. However at the same time, it is a great platform to find amazing followers/readers who are genuinely supportive of your work. It’s really all about balance and making sure that we stay true to ourselves. Thanks for sharing

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  29. This post was so needed. You 100% spoke the truth. Many young people these days are spending too much time on instagram and social media in general. They often think its alright to fake who they really are just to please the internet when most people enjoy a person that has a true personality.

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  30. This is an excellent post! I absolutely enjoyed reading this. I am going through this currently. I have been going back and forth between trying to create a social media presence for my blog and also trying to focus more on the content! It’s crazy.

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      1. Really? I feel quite insecure with twitter. I just came from twitter and recently decided to switch things to instagram! Do you think that’s a good platform?

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  31. Great read!!! This is the path I’m starting to take, I deactivated IG earlier this week then went back on it to reach out to someone. I realize not everything has to be posted, I don’t have to post selfies I can put makeup on and look nice without posting, I don’t have to post every aspect of my life either.

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  32. I spend way too much time on Instagram just scrolling through, although I find it super inspiring and relaxing. I’m finding a healthier relationship with instagram and social media just in general!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

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  33. Social media sucks us up and then spits us back. Soo connected, yet it really couldn’t be any further from the truth. I applaud those of us who’ve been able to step away from it, whatever the reason.

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