Hello everyone! Today’s guest post is from Gee of AllThingsGee, be sure to check out their blog as well as follow them on social media. I think we all can relate to this type of love…
I was not really sure what I wanted to write about within my guest post but we discussed the idea of it being Valentine’s day themed. And you see the thing is Valentines for me has never really been a day I have chosen to celebrate. (mainly because being single on Valentines made it hard to celebrate.) So I was not sure what I wanted to talk about in this post.
But after spending some time thinking about the different things that come to mind when thinking about love I thought I would talk about my favourite kind of love.
Now it is important to note that many will find it insane for this to be my favourite kind of love but I will explain to you why it is my favourite. You see it is my favourite kind of love because it is there to teach you something, although you may not see it at the time it is there for a lesson. It makes the most fascinating part of any love story because you want to know the outcome and most importantly it is my favourite kind of love because of my experiences with it. I say my experiences but it is also important to note that sometimes this love doesn’t start out as what it is but is sometimes formed by mistakes made by ourselves or the interest of our hearts but as previously stated it is there for a lesson.
I am of course talking about the strange and wonderful pain that comes with Unrequited love. Unrequited love is something I am positive we all go through at some point in our lives but it is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, despite it holding a special place in my heart as one of my favourite kinds of love.
I thought it was important to include a definition of unrequited love:
“Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved. The beloved may not be aware of the admirer’s deep and strong romantic affection, or may consciously reject it.”
Because you see no matter how you look at it Unrequited love is in
inevitable. In one form or another it is something we have all been through.
My example of Unrequited Love:
If you have ever loved someone so deeply that you would do anything for them you will understand this story. You see it wouldn’t be fair to discuss unrequited love without explaining or providing an example as to why I feel so strongly about the importance of Unrequited Love. However for the sake of keeping things as anonymous as possible the names have been changed. My story of unrequited love takes a very strange turn because I believe that this unrequited love took place at some point on both sides of this story.
The love you have for your friends is one you should never take for granted but sometimes friends (The Best of Friends) make you stop and think about whether the friendship is more than just a friendship. Sometimes for selfish reasons we chose to ignore these feelings and hold dear to the friendship you have created. Worse sometimes it takes losing this friendship to make you realise how much you loved them but by the time you have the courage to say anything it is too late. This is basically what happened in my story of unrequited love. It started with him being incredibly vocal about his feelings and me due to the feelings of other people choosing to ignore it and stay friends, and then a really strange thing happened I realised quite how much they meant to me but
we had drifted apart and it just never happened because they were seeing other people and when they were not it just wasn’t the same as it used to be. Now they have a family and I am so happy for them but this story I think is a great example of how unrequited love sometimes kicks you in the teeth but still teaches you what you want in life.
The thing is I am truly grateful for this experience because no matter how much I miss you, I know that it was a lesson that I had to learn and it is one I will hold on to forever. Sometimes it is okay to act like the fool and jump head first in to the magical mystery of love and friendship and I know the next time I feel like that I will have the courage to jump blindly into whatever the universe has sent my way. And for that I am eternally grateful.
The benefits of Unrequited love:
It makes for a great opening story line
You learn to love whole heartedly
It is one of life’s best lessons
You learn what it is you truly want and deserve
It tells you that you can love again
Teaches you to take risks
I thought the best way to end this little post would be a line from one of my favourite movies. I know it is no longer Christmas but it is only right to end with a quote from Love Actually. Because you see I like David (HUGH GRANT) in this movie do believe that if you take a moment to truly look around you will see that “Love is actually all around.” Requited or not.
I also wanted to just give a massive thank you to Brittany from Mind. Beauty. Simplicity for letting me be a guest post on her blog, I am truly a massive fan of her and her blog and will be forever grateful for this opportunity.
I hope you have a lovely Valentines Day whatever your plans. I would love to hear all about your experiences with Unrequited Love. Tell me all about it in the comments below.