Hi! Welcome to the first episode of the Brews & Babbles series. I’ve always been intrigued by the “Ask *insert name* type of sections in magazines. And I wanted to put my inspired twist to it on my blog. I love the idea of answering your questions of a wide range of lifestyle topics in a “couple of friends chatting at a coffee shop” type vibe. So, grab yourself a coffee, tea or your favorite alcoholic drink if your feelin spicy & let’s dive into today’s topic:
“Hi Bee, I’ve got dark under-eye circles, fine lines and other signs of aging and can’t afford the beauty treatments I used to use anymore. As Cher would say, “If I could turn back time…” What say you?”
Hi, “Cher Enthusiast”
First of all, I’ve had dark circles since my early teens, so I feel your pain! I used to layer the concealer on those bags ( Tarte Shape Tape is my ride or die). And in highschool, my concealer always ended up looking orange. But I think the bigger picture to this statement is the misconception we as humans always need to fix our appearance. Cover up your dark circles, erase fine lines & wrinkles. You can’t look older, you have to always have a smooth, youthful appearance until the day you die. It’s society’s fault for placing these negative connotations to age (especially with women).
God forbid I have a few lines around my eyes, right? Like, I apologize for being happy? And the names they give these so called flaws makes it even worse. Crows feet?! I mean, come on!! So, I could sit here & give you a list of products I recommend to help combat such “flaws” but instead, I’d like to ponder the question “Why can’t we just embrace getting older?” Shouldn’t aging be seen as an accomplishment of being alive another day?
I hate how society paints this picture that at a certain age, it’s time to pack it up! Throw in the towel! You had your time, & you blew it.
Didn’t finish college by your early 20’s? [ too late my friend ]
Not married by 30? [ better buy yourself some cats ]
No kids? [ what kind of human are you? ]
You want to change careers at 40 or even 50? [ pack it up grandma!]
And I call bullshit to all those statements!
Age is simply a number. Everyone has their own timelines in this life. Maybe people don’t even truly find themselves until much later down the road, & that’s ok.
At the same time, I’m not saying you should stop taking care of yourself. I think a proper skincare routine is great to have. But when you have bottles & bottles of products & putting yourself down in the process, that’s obviously not a healthy mindset. I realized we ourselves, are our worst critics. We need to be kinder to ourselves. That’s why we have so many people, especially the younger generation wanting lip fillers & botox. The battle of staying young forever is on!
I’m turning 30 this year & instead of crying & begging for my 20’s back, I’m trying to embrace it. I feel like my life has just started in a way. And sure, it’s annoying to wake up with another grey hair on my head but there are worse things. Plus, the older I get the more secure I am with my own being. My confidence has done a 180 compared to my teenage self. I am proud of who I am, flaws & all. If you’d like to hear more about what I’ve learned in my 20’s let me know in the comments.
To get a better understanding of what other people think about growing older, I asked people on Twitter their thoughts. ( all names aren’t included for privacy).
So, when you are staring at your reflection in the bathroom mirror tomorrow morning, instead of pointing out every line & mark of growing older on your body, how about being grateful for another day on this Earth.