I’m actually surprised of myself I was able to start a blog in the first place. I had this fear of vulnerability & putting myself out there so to speak. All of my worries & scarcities stemmed from caring what people would think of me. I got a pit in my stomach going through scenarios in my head of being embarrassed or ridiculed for my choices. I thought friends would think I was nuts for even thinking of going down this path.
To this day, I struggle with this fear of judgment. Everytime I click publish on a post I can’t help but wonder, “What if they hate it?” What if I shared too much.” “Oh my gosh, people are going to think I’m so weird.” I’m a rather self critical person & a perfectionist in a lot of ways, especially with my writing. I actually battled through learning to appreciate constructive criticism & people not agreeing with my writing style or overall content for years. But that is something I’ve grown to understand & appreciate. What I had to get a grasp on was the fear of being made fun of. I wanted to grow thicker skin.
The Secret Is To Have Something to Care About More
When you start focusing on yourself & shutting off the thoughts of other people you gain a sense of peace. I’m not saying I immediately changed & no longer care. It’s definitely a battle for me. But I have noticed when I am too busy with my own life, I don’t have time to compare myself to others & care what they have to say about me. Honestly, that’s the beauty of being talked about behind your back. You don’t have to hear it. A lot of the times, people aren’t even talking about you. Most of the time it’s just your own thoughts spiraling out of control.
Put your heart & sole in manifesting your dream life & setting goals that make you happy. When you are doing this, you have no time to care what people are thinking because you are too busy becoming successful in your own special way.
If people can’t be happy for you, that’s their problem. You can’t rely on other people’s opinions about you. You can listen but ultimately you are in control of how those statements will affect you. And if it’s not helpful advice, roll those judgmental & negative comments right off your shoulders.
I remember when I posted about How I Healed My Pain & Created A Happier Life, I was sweating bullets after that went public. I wasn’t admitting anything too drastic either. I was simply writing about how grief can put you in a state of sadness & figuring out ways to get out of that slump. Being someone who studied psychology, I wanted this post to help other people & create a discussion on how to remain happy during such tough times. But I got too in my own head & even questioned why I was doing this in the first place. Later on I realized people love personal touches to their writing because it helps people relate to you more. Not only this, but other bloggers helped me push forward & encouraged me to continue to share my stories.
If I listened to what people thought of me, I wouldn’t be where I am right now. So, a lesson to anyone struggling with these same demons, I hear you. And I encourage you to keep going. If it makes you happy & you feel fulfilled, don’t let others stop you. The ones who truly make a difference in this life are the ones who powered through & stepped out of their comfort zones. A few months ago, I finally listened to that little voice inside of me & pursued my passion. Who’s going to be next?
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